Style isn’t just a superficial exploration.
In this conversation, stylist Dacy Gillespie and Lola explore how clearing your closet and wearing your soul on your sleeve is actually deeply therapeutic and healing.
Topics Covered with Dacy Gillespie
- How Dacy approach personal style with her clients to uncover their authentic selves
- What benefits being an empath does for Dacy’s work as a style coach
- The way we dress up is most of the time because of what people around us growing up told us but we can choose to accept that or not
- In solidarity: you are not the only one who feels that you don’t look exactly how the models look and there’s nothing wrong with that
- Developing what you want to feel like with the clothes that you want to put on
- How Lola is using her style as a talisman, an energy changer
- Listening to your body and not to what they tell you should be doing
- How Lola was able to dress for her Soul Self
- Clothing is the entry point to listening to your authentic self and it’s not the same for everybody
- Why people of color or marginalized people have to work through harder just to express they’re Soul Self
- How dangerous and toxic it is for people to be perceived as beautiful
- No Apologies: take up space and not apologizing for who you are
- How Lola was affected by a statement her mother made when she’s a young lady
- The way Dacy was brought up in her home was a complete opposite to most families
- Pinterest Perfect: Dacy’s pursuit to always dress up like a fashion show guest
- Why is it so hard for people to let go of old clothes
- Use empathic gifts to help others but not take a toll on you
As a personal stylist, Dacy Gillespie intuitively guides her clients to discover what they feel best in. She helps them let go of the external messages they’ve been given about what they should wear and get to the heart of what’s making them uncomfortable about their clothes. Through their work building a functional wardrobe, Dacy’s clients make a mindset shift from thinking they need to wear what’s flattering to unapologetically taking up space in the world.
Dacy’s an introvert, a highly-sensitive person, an INFJ, a Human Design projector, an empath, and a Cancer. While all that means that she’s constantly overwhelmed by emotion and sensory overload, it also means that she’s super-intuitive about seeing what’s going on with other people and super-empathetic, which comes in handy when clients have to get vulnerable with her.
After a lifetime of jobs in high-stress careers that didn’t suit her personality, Dacy started mindful closet in 2013 in an attempt to create a more emotionally sustainable lifestyle. She has two boys, ages 2 and 6, and a husband she adores who is well aware of her mental load.